We begin another week. Again and again, we begin.
I’ve been theming my classes this week around the idea of self-intimacy, and I really do think it’s one of the most important lessons to learn. Intimacy as a stand alone word sounds like something reserved for romantic couples: dim lights, candles, soft kisses, snuggling up on the couch. But really, intimacy is something arguably even more important when you can share it with…you. It’s looking deeply within and giving yourself an invitation to open up, become more vulnerable, and know with an unwavering certainty who it is you are, what you stand for, what you like and don’t like, what feels good and what doesn’t. And no one else can tell you these things, even though they’ll try.
We walk around observing. I know we’re all guilty of this because people-watching has become somewhat of a sport. We all do it. I like to call it people-admiring instead because it sounds a little less judgey and a little more lovey. Regardless, we’re all busted. We observe and observe and with every new observation we cast labels and even project our own opinions based upon only what we can see on the outside. Sometimes we do it with perfect strangers, people with whom we’ve never even shared a word. And what happens when we don’t know ourselves intimately is that we start to adopt these labels and projections as truth, believing what we’re told and then holding this kind of jaded and untrue portrait of who we are before drowning in a big fat identity crisis.
When we set our intentions on knowing ourselves more intimately, the profound effect is this: all of the projections and labels and judgements from others about who we are become just background noise. We become less sensitive and stop taking every single thing so seriously because we know intimately & deeply who we are, what we stand on, what we stand for, and how we stand within ourselves and for ourselves. And sometimes, when people make an assumption about us and get it colossally wrong (as they will), we can just chuckle to ourselves with an air of peace and confidence and just say silently: Well, ya got that one wrong.
I’ll leave you with a favorite quote of mine, and maybe it’ll help pull you closer to a truer and clearer vision of who it is you are and what you’re doing here:
“Do not get stuck in the roles people prescribe for you. You are under no obligation to be who you were yesterday, ten months back, five years, or even five minutes ago. You grow. You forgive. You love. You change. Today you may step into a new role. One you are not sure of, but meant for. Embrace it. We are rarely good all the time, but surely we can do our best. Release judgement regarding your growth and release expectations of who you think you should be. Accept yourself as is in this moment right now.” -Marcella Kroll
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