“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
Would you like to be happy for the rest of your life? Then follow that one simple idea by Lao Tzu. It’s truly that simple. Yet …
We’ve been resisting change literally since birth! Born into a cold, loud world, we start our lives crying and in shock.
And change continues to happen so rapidly. And we fight it every step of the way … even before we learn to actually articulate the word, “No!”
It continues through childhood. Resisting the rules and expectations first from our parents then our teachers and society at large.
Do I even have to mention teenage rebelliousness here?
And finally as adults … we continue to resist! Yes, one side of us strives to fulfill our social duties, obligations and expectations in exchange for acceptance from our family, friends and colleagues. But the other side of us craves to revolt against every belief, dogma and standard that has ever been forced down our throats! We long to throw caution to the wind and live with our own rules and experience freedom.
Just think of how you react when you show up to yoga and your favorite teacher had to sub out class last minute. Or you open up an app you use every day and it’s been completely updated and it’s super hard to navigate. We simply don’t like change. Which makes us resistant. Annoyed. Inconvenienced. Not happy.
And this is just the little stuff, right?
Some big stuff has happened in my life lately, and I’m struggling to accept and go with the flow. So much easier said than done. A friend of mine who I’ve known for nearly thirty years – my best friend during my rebellious and exploratory, toeing the line 20s – was placed on life support recently. I’m still reeling from the shock of it. Disbelief. Regret. So much inner resistance.
Other stuff too. No need for details. You get it. We are all struggling and battling with our own inner turmoil each day.
So how do I deal with this huge curveball that life has thrown at me?
Each time my feelings and thoughts overwhelm me, I just breathe deeply and allow myself to experience whatever bubbled up.
I then direct my awareness to so many fond memories and I feel grateful for all the time we had together. And I dedicate my efforts to her throughout the day. Doing things on her behalf that she may not ever do again. Or truth be told, she would never do anyway. I could never get that girl on a yoga mat!
And I remember that despite the lie we all whisper to ourselves, that there is enough time, life is fragile and amazing and each moment is a blessing. Each breath truly a gift.
My work is non-resistance. To open and accept and laugh and love as much as I can for as long as I am able.
Let’s stop wasting time complaining about the weather or other things we cannot change. Let’s live with purpose and joy and acceptance.
Something magical will happen to you today! I feel it coming. Best. Monday. Ever. 🙏🏾