Good morning, dearest mindful ones!
And just like that …
My son has graduated from high school!
I have moved and purged 85% of my worldly possessions!
Life continues to move forward. And it’s entirely up to us how we choose to flow with life as it unfolds or dig in our heels and resist reality.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in my nearly five decades on this planet, it is that I have created my own suffering and resistance all of these years. I have made my life exponentially more difficult than it ever needed to be!
I have finally discovered the secret to happiness! And it’s so super duper simple.
And today’s your lucky day because I’m going to share this timeless wisdom with you right here!
Embracing happiness requires only two things. And you, my friend, have both of them in abundance!
The first is the simple mental decision to choose to be happy. Now when I say simple I certainly don’t pretend that it’s easy! But simply make the decision that you truly choose happiness … No. Matter. What.
So choose happiness. Boom! Mic drop and walk away.
But what if …
There are no “what ifs” or “buts”.
It’s a choice to be made in every circumstance and in every single situation. It’s easy to choose happiness when everything is smoothly going your way. Duh! Where is the challenge in that?
Your real test is in choosing happiness even when (fill in the blank here). And don’t get it twisted, there will always be roadblocks. Expect them and count on them. And still choose happiness as you navigate up, over and around.
The greatest tool you have to support this decision is your gratitude practice. There are several studies, articles and publications touting the neuroscientific benefits of gratitude. Blah. Blah. Blah. Thank you medical and scientific community for validating a 5000 year old practice!
We don’t need all of those studies, because we live and feel the benefits and results through our practice.
So decide to be happy. And be grateful for everything.
Each time “cats in the cradle” plays in my head, I direct my energy towards gratitude for every single moment I’ve experienced with my son.
When I start feeling regret for all of the beautiful possessions I’ve sold and given away, I feel grateful that my load is so much lighter now.
When someone cuts me off in traffic or is tailgating me, I feel grateful that I have a beautiful car to drive and that I am safe.
So choose happiness in every situation
Be grateful for everything; especially the opportunities that are disguised as challenges and setbacks
Choose to let go and lighten your load. Always.
Happiest of Mondays, mindful ones!