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Mindful Monday: Graceful Acceptance

Happy Monday, yogis!

It’s happening again, isn’t it? That final rallying that summer’s not really over.

Scoffing at pumpkin spice’s far too premature appearance. I mean seriously, my birthday is in September (oh, the 14th if you were wondering), and my birthday is literally always warm, bright and sunny. And I’m positive I saw pumpkin even before Labor Day!

Wearing shorts and tank tops, because, it’s like the first week of September! (Thank goodness I had my son’s track hoodie in my trunk for these early mornings.)

Still ordering iced chai rather than hot chai because I don’t need to warm my fingers – cold is like a mini Cryo treatment to my hands.

Then the realization that resisting the natural cycles of nature is just the same as complaining about the weather, which is my greatest pet peeve. Complaining about something that you have zero control or input over is an exercise in futility, frustration and insanity.

So today I ordered a hot coffee for myself and my friend Gina (not pumpkin) and felt gratitude for the chill breeze early this morning.

I admired how the trees are preparing for their big color show and inevitable release to bareness by slowly shedding extra leaves.

And I acknowledged the energetic effects of this transitional time on my body. It’s starting to slow down. It wants more rest and grounding.

The fall is characterized by vata dosha: airy, windy, cold, light, moving and dry.

As long as these qualities are in balance, a person whose dosha is predominantly vata (like me) will be healthy, creative, and exuberant. But when too much vata accumulates in the body and mind, the imbalance may manifest as physical or emotional disorders, including insomnia, dry skin, arthritis, constipation, high blood pressure, anxiety, and depression.

Many of us naturally and subconsciously move toward grounding ourselves during this windy, moving energy time. We move toward heavier, cooked foods that are filling and warming. We may see an increase in our appetites; be intuitive and take cues from your body on what it needs.

Tending toward softer, heavier fabrics in earth tones will ground and calm vata.

  • Even our yoga practice will reflect this transitional time: more stabilizing and grounding poses and flows.
  • As always, taking our cues from intuition and nature are the simplest ways we can gracefully weather life’s shifts and transitions. From the weather to kids back in school to shifts at work, in life and relationships, we learn to stabilize within and be more allowing to whatever flows our way.

    Have a lovely week, friends!

    Mindful Monday:

    Good morning, beautiful mindful ones!

    “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”

    Here’s a short story about life.

    There was once a man who had been wounded by a poisoned arrow. And when his family wanted to find a doctor to help him, the man said no.

    The mortally wounded man said that before any doctor tried to help him, he wanted to know who had attacked him. What was his caste and where was he from?

    He also wanted to know this other man’s height, strength, skin tone, the kind of bow he used, and whether its string was made of hemp, silk, or bamboo.

    So, as he wondered if the arrow’s feathers came from a vulture, peacock, or falcon, and whether the bow was common, curved, or made of oleander, he ended up dying before getting an answer to any of his questions. 

    How often do we this? Focusing so much on every myriad, irrevelant detail of the past, that we literally sacrifice our future?

    Focusing on the past robs us of our ability to fully experience the present, to enjoy every moment of the journey and to appreciate the beauty of life. Through yoga, we continually practice staying present in the moment. To focus, breathe, observe as we empty the mind of everything but right now.

    That’s exactly why we practice balancing poses! We are forced to feel the entire body and stay super focused – it’s hard enough balancing on two feet, let alone one!

    And most remember, dear yogis, that you are exactly where you are supposed to be in your journey!

    Make it the best week ever!

    Namaste

    Mindful Monday: Sangha

    Good morning and happy Monday, dearest mindful ones!

    I’m so grateful to be part of the Yoga By Degrees sangha. I’m so grateful for each and every one of YOU! 🙏🏾

    Sangha is a Sanskrit term meaning association, company or community.

    In Buddhism, sangha has two meanings: 1. A community of Buddhist monastic monks and nuns, or 2. a community of awakened beings.

    When I refer to our YBD sangha, I’m acknowledging that you are all my TRIBE! My peoples.

    I’m appreciating the fact that through all of my life transitions over the past eight plus years, YOU my dearest mindful one, have walked by my side; grabbed my hand and pulled me when I needed it; kicked me in my booty at times; pushed; cheered and supported me through ALL of it.

    And I sincerely hope that you feel I’ve been able to do the same for you.

    How lucky are we to have a sacred space to go and hide, heal, cry, laugh and receive love, compassion, support and understanding?!

    I am particularly grateful for all of the love, support, wisdom and much-needed advice as I’ve navigated the turbulent years of parenting a brilliant, talented and very stubborn (not sure where he got that from!) teenager!

    And yesterday was a successful launch into his brand new, bright, shiny future as a college freshman in Nashville at Vanderbilt University.

    It truly takes a village or a sangha to raise a child.

    From the bottom of my heart, thank you my dearest mindful ones.

    Namaste.

    Mindful Monday: It’s So Hard to Say Goodbye

    Good Mindful Monday morning, friends!

    “Life is a balance of holding on and letting go.”

    This has been my mantra this summer, as I prepare to say farewell to my soon-to-be college-bound son. He is a “rising” freshman as I’ve been told they are now referred to.

    I’ve been holding on to the preciousness and sanctity of each blessed breath and moment.

    And letting go of all of the thoughts of how I could have been a better mom.

    I’ve been learning to hang on dearly to memories of all of the laughter and fun and lightness.

    To release all of the disappointments and hurts that inevitably happen within a family and a personal relationship.

    And to grasp the nuggets of wisdom that result in learning the tough lessons of life.

    To hang on to the significance of each “last” before he leaves. Last weekend. Last family dinner. Last Sunday lunch. Last night before he embarks on his new adventure.

    And to leave behind the expectations and “shouldas” and “couldas.”

    To embrace with gratitude this gift of motherhood.

    And to acknowledge that this entire journey has always been about preparing to let go.

    To continue to trust in the brilliance of life’s plans.

    To relinquish the thought that I ever really had much control over any of it.

    To accept in my heart that we all did our best.

    And to surrender to the belief that this is exactly how it should unfold.

    This morning, I found a brand new park to sit in and write today’s post. It seemed fitting to write my last Mindful Monday before my heart and soul is ripped out and transplanted to another city and state. (Not dramatic at all!)

    As I sit on a bench with all the sounds of nature enveloping me, one of these birds flew directly towards me then looped around and flew away! So symbolic. I was completely engrossed in watching the flight. As an afterthought I snapped this picture of that bird with one of his bird friends.

    While I am well aware that I’m not the only mother in the history of the world to experience this deep, bittersweet sense of loss; I am definitely feeling connected to every human soul who has, for whatever reason, ever had to say a tough, gut wrenching, totally scary and absolutely necessary farewell.

    So when the time comes, I pray for the strength to be able to turn around and paddle away, knowing I’ve done all I can and trusting he will be surrounded with love, support and guidance always.

    Mindful Monday: Patience

    Good morning, Mindful Ones!

    “Patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.”

    Boy, did I have an awesome lesson in patience on Saturday morning!

    I left my house early to take one of my favorite yoga classes. En route, I stopped to get my iced coffee. I buy my coffee from a spot that is a hidden gem – it’s never very busy because it’s kind of off the beaten path.

    Well when I got there, I knew right away things seemed odd. There was a long line for the drive-through.

    Simple enough. I parked my car and headed in. And that’s when I saw the long line of customers waiting agitatedly.

    I caught the attention of my lovely barista Mârché, and she explained that there was only two people working that morning rather than the scheduled four people.

    So, I understood very clearly why there was a longer than normal wait. I had compassion for the two girls working, because they were dealing with two long lines of inconvenienced customers.

    And still, a well of annoyance, irritation and entitlement kept trying to bubble to the surface. And I kept breathing deeply and reminding myself of the perfectly logical reason why I was waiting. It was definitely a struggle.

    And because I frequent that location, and I have had dozens upon dozens of great experiences there, I was able to restrain myself from behaving badly. Lol.

    I had to wait so long, however, that I was now in danger of being late for class! Fortunately I had left quite early that morning, which in itself was a tiny miracle. 🤣 Had I left at my regular time, which generally gives me about a five minute window, I would have absolutely missed my class.

    So about 12 minutes later (who was counting?) i’m in my car and speeding off with focus and determination to get to my yoga class.

    Wouldn’t that be the morning that I caught every single red light? And not just regular red lights; Red lights that literally lasted like two minutes each.

    And why was every driver in front of me the slowest in the history of driving?

    Again, that hot flame of annoyance began to rise and build! It was growing into full blown road rage. I was clutching the steering wheel and hunching forward over it. I felt my shoulders tense upward toward my ears; my jaw was clenching. I was agitatedly pounding on my steering wheel!

    And I kept reminding myself to breathe. That this was most definitely a first world problem. That I had already texted the teacher and she had put a mat down for me. That if I missed my yoga class there was 32 others during the day that I could take.

    It was a constant back and forth struggle the entire drive.

    I made it to class with two minutes to spare. I dramatically rushed in and got myself set up. I said hello to my fellow students and other teachers. And finally, landed on my mat filled with gratitude and joy.

    Sigh. It’s always great to be back home.

    Let’s remember together, dear ones, that patience is a sign of STRENGTH and anger is the hallmark of weakness.

    Have a great week, great souls! And be so grateful if the universe sends you many, many opportunities this week to practice your patience!

    Mindful Monday: Little moments are the building blocks

    Good morning, mindful ones! I’m beginning to feel like we live in Seattle, not the Chicago suburbs!

    But I’m not complaining! I love the rain. But it does become a bit of a hindrance during graduation party season!

    As you may already know, my son graduated from high school in May and we are well into graduation party season.

    As we celebrate this next chapter in our kids’ lives, it’s such a reminder that we’re actually celebrating all of the little, every day mundane moments that brought us to this big one.

    Every Saturday morning spent on the (insert sport here) field;

    every Cub Scout meeting;

    every sleepover;

    every pizza party;

    every piano recital and martial arts belt test;

    every brown bag lunch packed;

    every random Wednesday morning;

    every spring break and summer vacay;

    every Christmas and Easter;

    every birthday;

    every driving lesson and late-night studying sessions;

    Every ACT and SAT prep sessions;

    Every single college application and endless essays;

    Every college visit;

    And every single day since they started kindergarten.

    Such a reminder to cherish every moment of each day that we have been gifted.

    Life is all of the boring, routine moments that lead us to the big life moments. It’s the daily grind.

    It’s remembering that each breath offers an opportunity to grow closer to God or push further away.

    So when you wake up on a Monday morning in June and it’s raining, remember that today is still a gift. And it’s up to you to receive it with a full and open heart or bitch and moan about the absence of sunshine.

    It’s entirely up to you! But today is a very important day on your journey. One day you will look back with fondness and perhaps a little longing for the good old days. And I don’t want you to have any regrets.

    I hope you embrace it all! The rain. The traffic. The slow poke in front of you. The losses. The transitions. The farewells and good byes. The leaky diapers. The late nights with a sick kid. The overbearing room mom.

    It’s all so very precious when you look back.

    I hope you fill this rainy Monday with memories!

    Have a great week, lovelies!

    Mindful Monday: From the Mouths of Babes

    Good morning and happy Monday, beautiful mindful ones!

    Yesterday we celebrated fathers everywhere! They are the strength and providers (traditionally) of our families. Kudos to all of the loving, active, supportive dads everywhere with their corny dad jokes and all of their hard work.

    My dad is currently in Barcelona, so I was grateful to speak with him on the phone and wish him a happy Father’s Day!

    I spent the day with my mom, brother, son and nephew. What an epic day!

    After a delicious meal together, we tossed the Big Kahuna frisbee around. It’s all fun and games until someone gets beaned by that hard plastic flying disc!

    Which was me. Right in the shin! I’ll happily show you the bruise if I see you at the studio this week!

    I took a bit of a break to nurse my wound while the boys kept playing. After some time, my seven year old nephew told me to get back in the game. Lol.

    Which I did. But I was very timid at this point. He had tons and tons of advice for me: “Auntie Nadja, You have to run faster. You have to jump! You have to run towards the frisbee! Don’t look away. Keep your eyes on the frisbee. You closed your hands too soon.” It was a steady steam.

    And it was all great advice! When I told him that I was afraid of the frisbee, he told me: “It’s ok Auntie Nadja. Just don’t focus on the pain. Focus on the frisbee.”

    And that little nugget of advice struck me as so deeply profound.

    Don’t focus on the pain. Focus on the frisbee.

    Boom.

    How often do we get stuck focusing on the pain in a situation? Immersing ourselves in it. Sure, we need to pause and evaluate the situation. But then it’s time to move on! Get back in the game and move forward!

    Countless situations in life are painful. Divorce. Death. Kids leaving for college. Betrayals from so-called friends or loved ones. We need time to heal and reassess our life perspective.

    But rather than focusing on the pain, we can focus on the lesson. How is this pain an opportunity to grow and strengthen. Or to grow and soften. Let the pain be what wakes you up and gets your attention, but not the focal point.

    Brilliance. From a seven year old!

    Unbeknownst to me, as I was tending to my poor shin, my son got hit in the face with the frisbee and had a busted lip. This kid is an athlete. He has been since he was four. Which is probably why he didn’t even mention his busted lip for a solid hour to me! He continued playing without a peep.

    He had clearly gotten that don’t focus on the pain memo! Lol

    Life sometimes hurts us, dear souls. Let’s not focus on the pain. Let’s learn and grow from it. Let’s let the pain transform us and elevate us! (Insert gratuitous image of the Rock. You’re welcome!)

    Have a great week, my dearest ones!

    Mindful Monday: Live for Today

    Good morning, beautiful mindful ones!

    I spent the weekend with a group of phenomenal, beautiful amazing women in Michigan. What a soul igniting experience!

    This Monday morning my heart is filled with gratitude for each and every one of you.

    Here’s a short story about life.

    There was once a man who had been wounded by a poisoned arrow. And when his family wanted to find a doctor to help him, the man said no.

    The mortally wounded man said that before any doctor tried to help him, he wanted to know who had attacked him. What was his caste and where was he from?

    He also wanted to know this other man’s height, strength, skin tone, the kind of bow he used, and whether its string was made of hemp, silk, or bamboo.

    So, as he wondered if the arrow’s feathers came from a vulture, peacock, or falcon, and whether the bow was common, curved, or made of oleander, he ended up dying before getting an answer to any of his questions. 

    Life is so short! Let’s stop focusing on irrelevant and insignificant things! Focus on what needs to be done now.

    Smile. Live. Love. Be Happy!!!

    Mindful Monday: Meditate and Feel Great!

    Hey, Mindful Ones!

    I’m so happy that more and more people are practicing meditation as they continue to reap the benefits of this life-changing practice.

    Meditation is a habitual process of training your mind to focus and redirect your thoughts.

    You can use it to increase awareness of yourself and your surroundings. Many people think of it as a way to reduce stress and develop concentration.

    People also use the practice to develop other beneficial habits and feelings, such as a positive mood and outlook, self-discipline, healthy sleep patterns and even increased pain tolerance.

    Other benefits include:

    *Reduction in stress, anxiety and tension

    * Increases immunity

    *Lowers blood pressure

    *Contributes to an overall sense of well-being

    So what are you waiting for? Set your timer for just five minutes today and watch your thoughts as you feel tension and stress melt away.

    Let’s make it a great week, friends!

    Mindful Monday: May 2019 Pose of the Month Parivrtta Surya Yantrasana or Compass Pose

    Hi, friends! Happy May!

    Our pose for May 2019 is Parivrtta Surya Yantrasana or Compass pose. It’s also called Sundial pose.

    It is a deep and twisty shoulder, hip and hamstring-opening seated pose that requires a great warm up and a good sense of humor!

    After a thorough warm up of hips, hamstrings, shoulders and spine, here’s how:

    • From a seated position extend your left leg long in front of you, round your spine a bit, and take your right knee into right elbow and right foot into left hand. If there is more space, wrap arms around shin and slowly, as it feels good, bring spine upright. Breathe for 5 deep breaths. (If you want to rock shin left to right like rocking a baby, that is also great to loosen up the hip joint.)
    • From shin cradle, take right hand to right ankle, and take left hand over your head and to the outer edge of your right foot. You can use your strap here! Round your spine and shinny your right shoulder underneath your right knee. Start to lengthen spine as it feels good, and breath for five deep breaths.
    • From here, release your right hand to the ground, fingertips facing away from you, soften right elbow as much as you want, and start to poke your head under your left shoulder.
    • Start to lengthen right leg to any degrees that feels good, and breathe there for five deep breaths.
    • Now repeat on the left.