Good morning and happy Monday, dearest ones!
Summer is slip sliding away so quickly!
And isn’t time such a relative perspective?
For parents with young, loud, messy, high-energy, easily bored little ones, the advent of a new school year can’t come quickly enough!
For one of my dearest friends whose daughter is in her last two weeks of Beast basic training for the United States Military Academy aka West Point, time seems interminable.
For me? I’d love to slow down the clock because my son Julian leaves for Vanderbilt in less than three weeks! Not to mention summer is hands down (legs up) my absolute best time of year!
Thus is our human nature. Trying to cherry pick life’s moments and experiences. Attaching to and desiring what we perceive to be “good” and resisting and averting from what we deem as “bad.”
We can never achieve permanent, authentic happiness and inner peace if we are constantly defining the conditions for it.
I will be happy if he brings me flowers.
I can’t be happy if she keeps smacking her gum.
I will be happy once I can get my leg behind my head.
I can’t be happy unless I get married again.
I’ll be happy if my mother-in-law doesn’t criticize me.
Whether or not these (temporary) conditions come to pass, we can still choose happiness if we don’t expect or depend on them.
Think about why you take a vinyasa class at your favorite studio: it’s awesome specifically because you don’t know what the teacher had planned! You are a student: open, eager and ready for whatever unfolds on your mat! Especially when you first began practicing, right?
It was all shiny and new and challenging and intoxicating. You didn’t second guess the instructor or try to anticipate what was coming up next. You listened, tried, experienced it.
You learned how to try new things.
How to fall. And get back up with a giggle.
You learned how strong you are!
You learned where you had areas and potential for growth.
You learned to breathe
To listen to your heart.
To accept wherever you happen to be on your journey.
And the entire point of yoga is to transpose all of those lessons off of the mat into real life.
So, rather than trying to make time slow down or speed up, we breathe in fully and deeply each and every moment. We trust in the higher intelligence of LIFE. We surrender to being such a beautiful, integral part of the greater universe.
Of course, it ain’t easy! Lol. Where would the fun be in that?!
So even though my heart aches down to the deepest level of my soul, I choose to be happy even during my moments of deep sobbing and panic. To feel grateful that I am able to love on the deepest of levels. To be thrilled for this ridiculously bright and amazing future my son is embarking upon.
To know and trust that of course it is all necessary and amazing and beautiful. All of it. Especially those circumstances that break us down; crack us wide open; leave us feeling raw and vulnerable and tender.
For these are the opportunities for true growth. Here we learn compassion, patience, healing, acceptance, depth of love and letting go.
Each moment may seem to last forever, but they are so precious and fleeting.
And one day in retrospect, you’ll look back and those moments you tried to rush through are the ones that you deeply long for!
One more day of summer break with my son
One more afternoon answering endless questions
One more early Saturday morning of baseball/karate/track meet/practice driving/soccer
One more night filled with loud, silly, messy hungry boys sleeping over
One more weekday night after a long day of work to hear the words: “mommy, will you play with me”
Recognizing on the deepest level there’s no going back for do-overs, I know the next best thing is to stay mindfully aware and present for all of the moments of each day.
So take advantage of the gift of these last weeks of summer! What have you been planning to do? Get out there and make it happen! So when you do look back, it’s with a deep, joyful knowing that you appreciated and maximized each moment.
Have a great week, friends!